A parting of the ways, calling it quits, Splitting up – whatever you call it, leaving a relationship is usually perceived as something bad, something negative. But in 2024, can we still say the same? Is breaking up from your partner actually a good thing today? We look at some of the fundamental reasons why splitting up is not as bad as you might think.
The New Single
In centuries gone by, being married was a positive reflection of social status, something that would bring about stability and demonstrate good morals. It was also tied to religious meaning and as a guarantee that a man’s children were biologically theirs. While there are still many other positives to being married, those original foundations have arguably lost some of their meaning in today’s changed society.
Being single in 2024 represents something different than it used to, and you could say that some of the statistics are showing a shift as a result. According to Statista, between 1991 and 2019, the rate of people getting married in England and Wales dropped from 36 marriages per 1,000 people to 17.9. Also, a study by PEW Research Center reveals that many adults in the US are happy with the single life and of those not looking for a relationship at the moment, other priorities in their life other than dating are cited.
No-fault divorce
Going through a divorce also has negative inferences. Organising new child care arrangements and maintenance, selling properties and reaching financial settlements can all trigger even greater conflict between exes.
However, the new no-fault divorce laws introduced in England and Wales in 2022 offer a smoother route for divorcing partners. Prior to the new laws, divorce applicants would have to state the specific grounds for divorce, including adultery, desertion and unreasonable behaviour. Having to cite one of these grounds can often be the source of further conflict. But under the new rules, couples can now divorce on the basis of ‘irretrievable breakdown’ of the marriage with no further details required. This opens up the way for a potentially more amicable split for divorcing couples.
The pursuit of happiness is king
Despite the change in societal norms, many people still do stay in unhappy relationships out of duty, responsibility and in some cases, fear of being alone. On the subject of happiness, CNBC refers to Harvard research which found that what makes us happy is ‘positive relationships’ which keep us ‘happier, healthier and help us to live longer’. While some do find happiness in romantic relationships and marriages, of those that are in unhappy or unhealthy relationships, it seems the opposite could be true. If you are unhappy and looking to split up from your spouse or partner, but are finding it difficult, knowing that real happiness and fulfilment awaits you at the end can help make the process feel ‘not that bad’.
Freedom to pursue your personal goals
There’s lots of advantages to being single too. You will have more time to yourself with less need to make compromises, your friendships will often run deeper as you get more time to spend with friends, plus, you will have more freedom and opportunity to go after your personal, career and well-being goals.
A final point
While there are many positive benefits for being single, if you are in a relationship and considering splitting up, it can still be difficult to make the break. Whether you have been cohabiting with a partner, or are married, it’s important to know what your legal rights are. Each case is specific to your circumstances, so it’s helpful to seek advice from an experienced family lawyer.
